Do you ever wish you could talk to your younger self?
Like just travel back in time like 10, 5 or even 2 years ago and just give her some real talk?
Kick her in the butt or give her some damn good advice that’ll prepare her for the future.
Theres a lot of times where I think about that poor, self-conscious, worry wart, sensitive younger version of me and just feel some sympathy for her.
Then seriously wish I could tell her what I know now, or tell her to keep her head up and good things are coming her way.
I will come across an old picture and remember my self-sabotaging thoughts I was having around that time or how lost I felt.
I mean I am grateful for my struggles and obstacles that I have faced because they shaped who I am and made me stronger.
But theres these reminders, tips, tricks, quotes, knowledge that I have now that I seriously wish I could tell my younger self…. specifically the 20-22 year old me.
From when I turned 20 to when I turned 22 I was kind of lost.
I had a lot going on from:
- Going through my first real breakup
- Battling a mental illness or two
- Went through a major party phase. And I mean MAJOR. Like drinking every weekend until 6 am both Saturday and Sunday and sometimes during the week. I barely drink now.
- Balancing school and trying to get into a extremely competitive dietetic internship
- Not really having much self-respect
It was a tough stage and I am grateful that I am out of it and in a much better place.
Without going through those things I probably wouldn’t be where I am today, starting a blog and a passion for helping others.
But man that younger girl needed some damn guidance and there are so many things I wish I could tell her.
7 Things I Wish I Could Tell my Younger Self
1. Do not settle.
This goes for all of you ladies out there too.
Whether your settling in a job, relationship, or any circumstance and you feel like you are not satisfied or your deserve better. It’s because you DO!
You literally deserve the best, happiest life and don’t let people tell you any different.
2. Your weight does not = your worth
Man oh man if only I came to this realization when I was freaking 12!
I identified my worth, my happiness, my value with my weight until I was about 22.
My goal in life was to be thin enough because I thought that made me a valuable person.
Your worth goes way beyond your weight. Your weight and worth should never be in the same damn sentence.
The way you talk to yourself, to others, your priorities, your actions, how you feel, your mental and physical health, your relationships, are you a genuine person.
THOSE things matter.
Your weight? Mmmmm nope sorry.
My post on ditching the scale and focusing on how you feel goes into more detail on this topic as well.
3. You don’t have to have it all figured out
I still have to remind myself of this sometimes.
Forever feeling like I have to have my whole life figured out even though I’m only 23 and have so much I want to do.
Do you guys feel that way too?
The truth is, that its okay to not have it all figured out. Stop stressing.
If your out of university and not at your dream job yet…. chill.
Or if your not in school and still have no clue what you wanna take or what you want to do… thats okay!
Go with the flow, ride the wave, see where life takes you.
Enjoy the crazy journey. Everything will work out in the end.
4. Don’t take life so seriously
Looking back, I feel like I was such a little worry wart and such a stressed out kid.
When I was 5 I had Ancraophobia… never heard of it?
Probably cause its super uncommon.
It’s a severe fear of the WIND. Yeah you heard me, the freaking wind.
I dont know where it came from but my parents couldn’t take me anywhere.
If there was a bit of wind I would be so uneasy.
OR if there was a really windy day or a storm, I was straight up hiding in my bed under the covers hyperventilating, having panic attacks because I thought we were all going to die.
Like I would think wind = a tornado and we would die. insane right?
At recess at school I remember hiding up against the wall bawling my eyes out and freaking out because it was windy and I didn’t wanna be outside.
Or I’d fake sick so I didn’t have to.
And I had to see a counsellor for a while because It was bad lmao.
It lasted until I was almost 10…. 5 years of insane anxiety about the WIND.
Anyways, my point of that story was that I took life so damn seriously.
Even throughout high school, every little event or something unfortunate in my life I would take it like it was the end of the world.
I would stress out about everything for no reason.
Probably makes sense why my anxiety disorder made a lovely return when I was 20.
But life is never as serious as your mind makes it out to be.
Have fun with it, you are here for a good time not a long time.
5. Let things go you cannot control
This ties in with taking life seriously and my anxiety as a child and as an adult.
I mean why else would I lose my shit about the wind?
That is so out of my control it’s not even funny.
Why spend so much of your time and energy and worries on something you literally have no control over?
This goes for anything your worried or anxious about.
Sometimes its uncomfortable to let go because having control makes us feel safer.
But you will be so much more free in life if you just loosen your grip a little and let go.
Let life do its thang. You can’t control everything that happens anyways!
6. What other people think of you is none of your damn business
This applies to everyone and everyone every day.
I sacrificed a lot of my life and time because I was worrying what people thought of me.
I stayed in a relationship for way too long when I wasn’t even happy because I was worried what people were going to say.
With my blog, I put that off for so long because what if people thought I was weird.
Or in high school, if there was a rumour about me or something was said… I took it straight to heart and thought it was true.
Well now I say screw all of those people who talk shit.
YOU are in charge of YOUR OWN LIFE.
If they wanna talk, let them.
It doesn’t define you, and it’s only hurting them being all mad and probably just jealous.
If you want to do something out of the ordinary, go outside your comfort zone then DO IT.
People always reject the unfamiliar.
But if you want to make a difference in life or in yourself…. getting out of your comfort zone is 100% necessary.
7. Theres more to life then being thin
Like way more.
When I was younger, and I’ve talked about this a lot, but I was obsessed with being thin.
I would skip out on family events or friend outings because the food gave me anxiety.
Way too scared to gain any weight and had not a lot of knowledge on fitness or nutrition yet.
Food should never come with guilt. EVER.
I really wish I knew this when I was younger. I would have saved myself so much pain.
Looking back I remember thinking chips, fries, burgers were the absolute devil and I would never EVER touch them.
If something had 200 + calories in it, I would say HELL NO.
God I wish I could give that girl a shake.
Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed.
There is so much more to life than food, fitness, being thin.
Yes eating well and exercising is important but it is not everything.
Please don’t skip out on fun events and parties because you are scared to gain weight.
Go out there and make memories and have FUN.
Too bad I can’t actually tell my younger self that. But it’s fun to think about.
Either way I am grateful to be at a good, loving, confident place in my life and I will forever thank my struggles for getting me here.
I want to tell you guys about this awesome site called Tiny Buddha
Its like a blog, and they share all of these articles about letting go, finding peace, overcoming anxiety or any hardship.
If you haven’t go check it out and read some of their articles because there is so much wisdom in them.
When I had bad anxiety, insomnia or an OCD episode I would go on there and search articles about letting go or finding peace and it helped so much.
I would highly recommend that site to all my fellow anxiety warriors out there.
What would you guys tell your younger selves if you had the chance?
Let me know in the comments below. I LOVE hearing from you guys.
Have a great Tuesday!